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Donations Accepted Here

Posted in Giggles, Musings, Naughty Friends on July 13, 2010 by naughtysecretary

Sometimes, just sometimes, I’m lucky enough to receive treats of the sexual kind. In a way I feel honored that someone would go to great lengths (insert dirty joke here) to show their appreciation for me and what I do. I love surprises, and was quite thrilled when this showed up on my phone.

Can you do any better?

~ NS

A Child Pawn In A Queen’s Game

Posted in Naughty Friends, News on August 13, 2008 by naughtysecretary

“To be an artist is to believe in life.” Henry Moore

I know my postings here of late have been a little varied. Most of you are probably wondering why that is. Well, a number of reasons have contributed, actually. I’ve been diving into my box of goodies from Vibe Review, for one. Lucky me. I’ve also suffered a severe case of writer’s block, number two. This seems to be remedying itself, so I can promise you a naughty tale to shortly follow this post. Also, sex toy reviews will be posted here very soon. Orgasms for everyone!

This very posting surfaced to the top of the pile for a very good reason: A friend in need. As I have mentioned, I have become dear friends with the lovely and talented Catalina. She really is a living, breathing, doll. And my opinion of her has nothing to do with the various projects we’ve been working on together, or the traffic she has thrown my way. I wouldn’t have offered my help or services to her if we weren’t friends before that. One begets the other; I just want to make sure that you my readers know the order in which things have fallen into place. I’m not one for sucking up, unless of course, I’m on the receiving end. But…as usual, I digress, enough about me…

Well, she’s run into difficulty concerning her daughter’s school, and an old wound. The issues can be read here. After digesting that, I was sick to my stomach, and the reasons are obvious. I’ve been in a financial bind before, and had to rely on the help of friends. It’s not a nice feeling, being vulnerable, the future uncertain, and I can’t imagine having my child’s education at stake on top of that clusterfuck.

So, what can I do? What can we do? Here’s what we can fucking do (and yes, I have a fire in my belly at this point): If you read the article, you’ll note that Catalina has started a raffle, and tickets are selling at $10 a piece. There are plenty of prizes, so I implore you to take a look. I’ve recently owned up to being a graphic designer, and my contribution to the prize heap is this: I’ve offered 2 separate prizes of 2 hours of my design time. Yep, you’ve got it. 2 hours of me – aren’t you lucky??? That could mean a logo, a business card, a postcard, whatever you’d like. As long as it takes 2 hours, it’s yours. *** Printing not included, of course.

Now, if you need some convincing of my design qualifications, here are a few naughty previews of what I’ve been designing of late.

Convinced enough? Then please visit here and buy a few tickets. *** Please note that any excess contributions will be donated to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.

Some of you still on the fence? Ugh, you have to be difficult, don’t you? Time to pull out the big guns…(If you can’t hear the sarcasm from here…well, then…you don’t know me too well…)

So I’m admittedly a designer, but I also paint. In show of my friendship and loyalty, I’ve decided to auction off a personal piece of mine. You want a piece of The Naughty Secretary? Well, just like any good whore, you’ll have to pay for it.

Now, I know for a fact abstract art isn’t for everyone. In fact, only recently have I discovered the complexity of it. Sure, a 5 year old can paint like this, or wait! This looks like my techni-color yawn at the end of one helluva big night…but honestly? Abstract art is highly underrated. You really should have the basics mastered: color, layout, meaning, texture…just like design. Only take out form to an extent, and then try to convey what you want to say. In high school, I thought abstract art complete bollocks. Now that I’ve explored the forms, it seems natural, emotive, real.

Now, after all of that, take a gander and decide for yourself!

This is an acrylic painting on board, 9×12 inches. Easy to frame and ship ~ It even has my name on the bottom!

So, I’m thinking I want to auction this off. Please email me at, and send me the amount you think this is worth. All proceeds go to the lovely Catalina and paying off that horrendous bill. I’ll pick the highest amount offered and email you back sometime on Saturday, August 16th with payment and shipping details. *** Please note, buyer pays shipping, and payment must be made via Paypal by Monday, the 18th of August.

I want to thank you in advance for your support ~ It means a great deal to me. A strong education and a loving home are what every child deserves.

~ NS

Naughty News And Reviews

Posted in Naughty Friends, News on August 5, 2008 by naughtysecretary

Where to begin? This little Secretary has been busy…

First and foremost, I have some very exciting news to share. On a number of different topics, actually. The wonderful and wicked Heather at has asked me to become an official reviewer of sex toys. Yes, that’s right: me and sex toys, a match made in heaven. Who would have thought? Ok, ok, so it’s not so far fetched, but please stay tuned for copious orgasms and screams of pleasure with reviews posted here weekly.

VibeReviews has also launched a sister site called The Accidental Blowjob. It is certainly worth a look, and is filled with all kinds of goodies ranging from sexual health information, guides on topics such as female ejaculation, and interesting site and music reviews. Just a few days ago they reviewed the lovely Catalina here, and they plan on reviewing my site next.

Speaking of collars, I have also been in touch with the lovelies at, and look what landed on my doorstep just yesterday. Isn’t it pretty? It was made just for me. You’ll be hearing more about the collar in up and coming weeks.

I’ve also recently mentioned a pairing with the lovely Catalina on a few creative tasks of late. Well, let me introduce you to the site She sums the site up best:

“I did it! Best Sex Bloggers is live. is a unique collaboration between the best sex bloggers and the best erotic, bondage, and glamour photographers in the scene. We tried to represent every genre we could imagine: BDSM, Dom, Domme, Submissive, Online D/s, Vanilla, Queer, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Poly, Psychology, Sexuality, Discussion, Photography, Sociology, Podcasts, Bondage (including beautiful rope bondage by well-respected bondage artists), Erotic Fiction, Tales of Adventures, Sexual Fantasies, Hot Couples, Kink, Fetish, Phone Sex Operators, Professional Sex Writers, Reviews, Photoblogs, Education and Information, Smut, Filth, Flirting, HNT, Networking, Featured Artists, Local Events, Poetry, and even just once in a while a tale about the weird lives we tend to lead.

Pretty much, we have it all (and then some!) There are interviews, reviews, discussions, and debates sprinkled in with the variety of posts. Big names, good writing, and sexy images. It’s a pervert’s heaven, but not just any pervert. This blog is specifically for you that consider yourselves smart and kinky!”

Not only am I privileged enough to be one of the contributing authors for this site, I also designed the header. What do you think?

And after all of that, Your Girlfriend’s Diary was lovely enough to review my site. I’m beyond flattered. I’ve pasted the review below. Stay tuned for some more smut to follow!

~ NS

Your Girlfriend’s Diary: Naughty Secretary

Today we are going to visit the Naughty Secretary. You have to be careful here because NS blends fact and fiction sometimes so well you can’t tell where one stops and the other begins. Or is there really a difference? The site is kind of eclectic in that we get erotic fiction, photography, music and some other artsy stuff. That being said, sex in the primary topic; the main flavor: BDSM. The interesting part is that NS plays both dominant and submissive. Just compare Insatiable with The Wrath of Eve. The better part is that NS executes each very well. The style is not as immersive as some writing out there, but the set ups are well detailed and capture a mood quite effectively. In my view, the fiction is the best part of this site. Some of the stories are lengthy and others quite short, but there are quite a few of them, and they range in quality from good to really, really good.

Like many other female sites, there is a man floating around in some of the posts, this one called “Mr. X.” He is not obviously featured in most of the writing, though. Just as well. Come here for the stories. NS herself is harder to figure out. She obviously has a vivid sexual imagination, but you have to extrapolate who she is from her fictional selves. Her comments are actually of more help in this regard. Here is one of her comments I pulled from an older story about online relationships:

The internet also allows you to reveal as much of yourself as you deem fit. For some, this could mean honesty in your wants and desires, via a certain amount of anonymity. A connection that would not otherwise be there. And I don’t know about you, but the mind is where arousal hits me first. Put a gorgeous male in front of me. If he’s not intelligent, I’m not interested.

Exactly, NS. Exactly.

Blog type: Erotic fiction/photography/art

Erotic Quality: High marks for the stories. There are more than just BDSM themes going here for sure, though that is certainly a favored subject. NS does not always use the same point of view in her writing. Some is third person, some is first person/”I-he” and a few are first person/”I-you.” In some cases, that limits the immersive nature of the expression, but maybe I have just already read too many of these blogs.

Honesty: NS doesn’t reveal too much about herself directly, but you can often tell quite a bit from what and how an author expresses herself. There is an authenticity to the writing that can’t be denied. Remember, this category is not an assessment of whether the posts are actually true, but rather whether they reflect genuine sexual feeling. She convinced me anyway.

Presentation: I like the way the site is organized. NS uses a few obvious categories that allow easy navigation to what you want to see. If you are just here for the pictures, for example, one click and there they are. The navigation options are also useful for avoiding a number of Sugasm posts that unfortunately clutter up an otherwise good looking site.

Comments: The comments are great, and NS has a delightfully sharp tongue, as at least one ignorant commenter found to his or her discomfiture. My only advice: if you are going to comment, don’t say anything stupid. The problem is that many of the good discussions are buried in Sugasm junk. Yes, I know a lot of people do it, and I know why they do it, but it really does get in the way of the good stuff.

Fetish Factor:
This is definitely not a plain vanilla site. There is a strong current of dominance/submission, along with a bit of bisexual tension and other interesting stuff. Through it all though, it’s pretty likely to get something stirred up.

Overall, this is a great site. I found some of the best material in the older posts. There is more variation in the fiction at that point, so if you stop in, it is worth staying awhile.


Posted in Erotica, Naughty Friends, News on July 24, 2008 by naughtysecretary

Rarely in life someone crosses my path and grabs my attention with full force. I’ve lived enough to know when this does occur, such an alliance is not to be ignored.

When first stumbling across the sex blogosphere, her words and images stood alone. Not only is she gorgeous, she is a mother, a wife, and a true force to be reckoned with; she clearly understands what it is to be a Goddess, worthy of worship by rite alone. But there is so much more to this woman I am now privileged enough to call my friend.

She contacted me recently to embark on several creative tasks and asked me for my assistance. In no way did I hesitate. After all, not only did I respect her as a peer, her personality intrigued me. It still does.

What makes her my Doppelgänger? She is strong and soft, hard and vulnerable. Full of compassion and love, she’s also like a Pitbull – loyally willing to defend a loved one at the drop of a hat, to put her own needs aside to hold up what’s right in this world. She loves whole-heartedly, without abandon, even if reality may tell her to heed for self preservation. She’s strong willed, completely lovable, and a dirty little whore just like me. Simply put, she’s a minxy antipodean.

She’s also stunning to look at, beauty to behold, inside and out. Now that doesn’t hurt, does it?

Did I mention she likes her collar?

So for the first time in my life, I have taken assignment as Secretary. To both she and her dirty, filthy, incredibly sweet and oh-so-wickedly-fuckable husband.

Stay tuned, this should be fun. In fact, I guarantee it.

For The Love Of Lochai

Posted in Naughty Friends, News with tags on July 9, 2008 by naughtysecretary

One refreshing and rewarding aspect of delving into the sex blogosphere is stumbling across like-minded souls. That said, if any of you are not familiar with Catalina, you should be. After all, who wants to miss out on a plethora of naughtiness and debauchery to boot? Not to mention a filthy mind hidden in a beautiful body. I actually found Catalina’s blog way back when, even before I had my own marker in cyberspace. I was immediately drawn to many parts of her persona, and so I investigated her blog and work further. I’ll be honest, Catalina’s smarts and diligence never cease to amaze me, and I dare say she was an influence in me starting my own site.

This brings me to the work of Lochai. A friend of Catalina’s, his striking images manage to steal and hold my gaze time and time again. That’s a tough feat for a fellow snapper like me – his photographic eye is something to be revered, his work exuding a heady combination of femininity, power, seduction, and class. I’ve loved his work from first viewing, and the allure of his images has not passed with time.

It seems unfathomable to not promote Lochai’s brilliance and eye for beauty and sensuality. When asked if I would cross-post Catalina’s pledge to help a friend, as an artist, it not only became my honor to promote his work, it became my complete pleasure.

So, to share that pleasure with you, I present Lochai.

~ NS

Become A Patron Of The Arts! Support Lochai!!

It’s no secret that I have a ridiculous crush on Lochai, and maybe a part of it is because I fell in love with his work as an artist. On top of all that I got to actually meet him yesterday and put my hands on his… prints (I know what you thought I was going to say!)

I know a lot of my readers are people who share my opinion about Lochai’s erotic and bondage images and also share my belief in supporting the art and the artists they love. That’s what this post is all about. Your opportunity to own real art while supporting the arts. It’s a win-win situation.

Lochai has a few gallery shows coming up. He talks about them in the interview we did recently here. In response to my question about his upcoming gallery shows, in particular the exhibition at the World Erotic Art Museum in Miami Beach, FL, this is what he had to say:

Wow…. To hang in a Museum is an amazing thing. To hang in this Museum is even a greater compliment in that the owner/curator, Naomi Wilzig, does not normally collect photography & has only just started to. She has thousands of painting, sculptures and other various articles that have moved her over the years and only a few photographs including ones from a good friend of mine, BT Charles. She has had many one person displays exhibited in the galleries in the 3 years WEAM has been open, but she asked me to be the first photographer. I am also a local so this adds to the pride I feel. Art gallery shows are wonderful but to say that you are displayed in a museum, for me that is something I am very proud of. I will also have Beach Bound added to the permanent collection. I was also the first heterosexual male artist to have a special “Guest Gallery” show that lasted a year of 30 of my images in the Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago which just came down in May.

So now here we are, it’s almost time for Lochai’s big show and now it’s time for me to get involved in the only way I know how. I’m holding my own Lochai Pledge Drive to help support Lochai’s upcoming gallery projects. He has never done this before and he may never do this again, it’s truly exclusive (and it will give your grandkids something to bring onto The Antique’s Roadshow!) Think of it is the kinky version of the PBS Pledge Drive – you know, you donate some money and they give you a nice gift to say thank you.

Here’s the rundown – you donate to Lochai’s upcoming shows. Donations are simple and easy – log into PayPal and use Lochai’s email address ( You can even use your credit card. In return, as a thank-you gift, you receive one of Lochai’s signed prints. The print you will receive will be chosen by Lochai and is from his award-winning gallery.

Donate $25 and receive a signed 4×6 print. This is perfect to frame and put on your nightstand

Donate $50 and receive a signed 5×7 print. This is a perfect size to have on your desk, no?

Donate $75 and receive two signed 5 x 7 prints – a nice little complimentary set for your boudoir. I love the idea of having two complimentary, beautiful images, nicely framed and hung next to each other. MDS says he thinks it would be neat if you’re a couple to frame them and then put one on each of your nightstands. I love MDS. He’s so clever!

Donate $100 and receive one signed 8×10 print – perfect to hang on the wall. Actually Lochai gave me an 8×10 as a gift yesterday and it’s matted, framed, and perfectly placed on my desk, so an 8×10 is really a nice size – you can hang it or place it somewhere special.

For donations more generous than $100.00, please contact Lochai directly. Those donors will be considered sponsors and will not only have their name associated with the show as a sponsor, but as a thank-you gift will receive a signed, limited edition print in a larger size. Again, just contact Lochai directly to discuss this option. He’s a very friendly man!